Remember when you read the post about having three true loves in your life? The young love, the tough love, and then the love we didn’t see coming, the one that should be the one. You believed not? I know I did. I got along so well, my first love was an immature love in high school. My second was definitely a tough one, one of those you think you’ll never get over. The third? Yeah, I certainly didn’t see that one coming. And when that love ended, so did the truth in that post. Girls, we can all relate, right? You can only tell yourself that your heartbreak has had a purpose for so long before you stop believing it. Been there. Keep going through this and you’ll see that your heartbreak really does have a purpose.
Why are we single? Getting old isn’t it? God chose us to be single. Why? 1 Corinthians 7:35 explains that our singleness is “to promote what is proper and to ensure undisturbed devotion to the Lord.” What we lacked in those three loves was a relationship with God. That is the ultimate reason why they all failed. “If we put human beings into needs the size of God, they cannot possibly succeed.” This is where toxic relationships begin.
If we want to feel loved, we must start by knowing that we are truly loved. Ben Stuart, in his book “Single, Dating, Engaged, Married,” explains three primary ways to know that love is present.
Love sends. He explains, love cannot sit still, it moves, expresses itself in action, initiates. The best way to show this is through Christ. In 1 John 4:9, John told us, “In this the love of God was manifested among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, that we might live through him.” This was the ultimate gift.
Love sacrifices. We’ve all seen The Titanic where Jack literally froze to death saving Rose from sinking in the Titanic. God not only came for us, but he sacrificed himself for us. How do you know you are loved? Christ left heaven. Has left all his comforts. Lived the life of a poor man and then sacrificed his life so that we could be forgiven and brought into his family.
Love remains. Even when staying is difficult. “For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.” We say this because love lasts. God knows we’ll struggle, he knows we’ll be weak, we’ll fail, but he promises he won’t leave. He stays because that’s what love does.
Girls, you don’t have to spend a single moment of your life trying to earn the love of others. You have God’s. You need not seek fulfillment from anyone. Through him you can find abundance.
The purpose of your heartbreak was so that you could see that God desires a relationship with you. The goal is that you can chase him and only him. To build that stable foundation upon which all other relationships will be built. Whether your single period is long or short, you can know that God has given you this period as a gift, and it has a purpose.